Tips for an Unplugged Vacation with Your Spouse
Hello, Humpday! Hurry on by so we can get to Friday! Anyone else ready for Friday?
A lot of ya'll seemed to really like the idea of an unplugged vacation when I shared that Toby and I spent the weekend disconnected from social media (and most of the world) for the weekend. This is our second time doing it (we're making it a tradition of doing it every three months), and we seriously love it! Seeing that ya'll loved the idea so much, and we talk about relationships on Wednesdays, I figured you'd love some tips on how you and your honey can get your social media unplugging on!
B-t-dubs (by the way), this is totally applicable for a vacation, staycation, or weekend getaway. You can do all the tips listed or you can do some. The point is to relax and recharge that intimacy with your spouse (and yourself! We forget to love ourselves a lot of the times!). So, on to the tips!
Put the phone on Do Not Disturb. Or airplane mode, or off (unless you have kids, of course). The whole point of having an unplugged weekend or vacation is to, well, unplug! That means no social media in any shape or form, no Candy Crush, no texting the girls about how amazing the hotel is. The phone stays away!
Get some rest. One of the main purposes of a vacation or unplugged weekend is to relax and recharge. You can't do that when you're exhausted. And effective communication and a desire for your honey can be kinda hard when all you want to do is sleep. Usually we start our vacation right after work so for the first night Toby and I arrive to our hotel, we bring dinner to the room, cuddle up, and fall asleep. We also don't make much plans outside of the hotel so that way we can get out of that rushed feeling that we tend to pick up on due to work. Toby is a huge fan of taking lots of naps during this time!
Plan together. Toby and I like to use this time to talk about and reflect on our goals, dreams, progresses and plan for the future. We talk about everything from how we envision our future house to catching each other up on what's been going on in our heads and hearts.bwe do this after we are completely relaxed and loved up on so we don't come to "our talks" on the defensive, but rather actually enjoy talking with one another. Some other good tips are to plan future date nights, create a family mission statement, or even create a few Pinterest boards to share with one another of your dream house plans!
Have sex! And lots of it! Sorry, family, just skip over this part! And not just your same old go-to sex moves. Spice it up! Get some nice lingerie or pull out the ones you haven't used in a while. Hop on over to Google or Pinterst and find some sexy games and new positions. One of my absolute favorite tips I got from a book (that I think I've also mentioned on the blog) is to have a fragrance that you use only for those intimate times. For us, we have a candle and a Victoria's Secret fragrance that only comes out during these times so that there's a connection between that scent and pleasure. But get creative and romantic! You've got the whole weekend, or vacation, or staycation.
Do stuff together. Watch movies or college football together. If you're at home or a suite where there is a kitchen, find a recipe and cook together. Read to each other. Include each other in your hobbies; maybe show him some of your recent photos from a shoot you did for your friend's baby shower, and let him show you what he's learned in Photoshop.
Go for a walk. If you do end up leaving the room or your place, go for a walk and hold hands while doing it! When is the last time ya'll held hands? (Can you tell I'm a touchy feely kind of girl?). Explore the area together and even try a new restaurant or shop!
Spend time with God together. There's nothing like being on one accord in terms of your walk with God. After all, you are one flesh (Mark 10:8), so your spiritual walks do affect one another. So put on some worship music throughout the day and worship God together. Or pray together and for each other. I don't know about you, but there is something so sexy about hearing Toby pray for me (although I'm sure the last word on my mind during prayer should be sexy, lol). Ask God to continue to strengthen and be at the center of your marriage. Have Bible study together. Your marriage is nothing but a hot, stinking mess without Him, so He should be included in every aspect of your marriage.
Toby and I have tried these tips and will continue to do this as often as we can. I can't tell you how worth it it is to unplug from the world and focus solely on you and your man. We always come back to the world refreshed, renewed, and refocused.
Let me know if you've got some tips to share or what your experience has been with unplugging!