Day 4 - A Lesson from my Singleness

So I got a nasty cold at the weekend, and today was just a plain old struggle.com. I’m convinced I am going to either blow my brains straight into my millionth wad of tissue, or I’m going to cough one of my lungs up. BUT I will NOT let this deter me from getting this blog post in… even if it is at 9 p.m.!

I was texting a friend this evening, and I was reminded about our conversation a couple of months ago where we were talking about how she, myself, and a couple of friends are all in different stages of our adult life. She’s single. I’m married. One friend has children, and the other is pregnant with her first. I remember encouraging my friend in her singleness and she revealed that it sometimes bothers her that she’s not married or has kids. After encouraging her, I joked with her all the “perks” she has in being single: not having to really answer to or care for someone else, being able to take up the entire bed, make plans spontaneously with friends, etc.

Not that I don’t love marriage, because seriously, ya’ll, I LOVE being married! Like seriously, marriage has got to be my most favorite adventure yet! But I do look back and realize what I took for granted because I was so anxious for Toby to put a ring on it. I kept my eyes focused on “when we’re finally married” that I let a few months before Toby and I get married fly by without soaking it all in. I remember rushing and wishing those days away to hurry to get to the married part. Granted, I had fun in my single days and I have so much fun being married now, but I do imagine what those days could have looked like if I truly leaned into that season of singleness and stopped to smell the roses.

I don’t want to do that this season. I want to stop and smell the roses. I want to look back on these days and remember what God is teaching me. Because guess what? Seasons do change, and I won’t be where I am at this exact moment forever.

Alright, folks; that’s all I got! If this post sounds all over the place, blame it on the cold, and the fact that I reealllly just want to climb into bed! Ha!